“Men marry the woman in front of them at the time they are ready to get married,” says Tiktoker Tay Talks....CONTINUE READING
In a viral video, Tay explains that men don’t marry the woman they actually love the most, they marry the woman they’re dating when they consciously decide they’re ready to settle down.
The idea is that men will only see marriage as an option when they are emotionally and financially ready, and therefore will miss the opportunity of marrying their soulmate on account of bad timing.
According to this theory, all men have “one who got away” they often reminisce about.
As with all popular theories on romantic relationships, this one has some truth to it — but it would be a mistake to believe it applies to everyone.
Plenty of men marry women they’re madly in love with but at the same time, the most amazing, beautiful, thoughtful woman can’t make a man interested in marriage if marriage isn’t a part of his values, or if he’s not ready to get married.
How men and women see marriage
Women are brought up to fear wasting too much time in the search for a partner and missing the marriage “boat.” They’re not expected to consider for too long whether they’re ready for marriage or not, they’re expected to be ready pretty much the moment they become adults.
Women are taught it’s dangerous to date casually, and dangerous to get too involved with anyone they don’t see a future with. They’ll either break up with men they don’t see themselves married to or do everything in their power to make these men “fit” into the vision they have for the future — even though a little voice in her head keeps telling them it’s not going to work out.
Men are brought up to not even consider getting married unless they’re ready in every possible sense: psychologically, emotionally, and financially. It can get to the point where men overthink what it means to be ready and whether or not they are, which can definitely cost them precious opportunities for partnering up…
