The road to ’happily ever after’ is tougher than you think. The initial sparks in your relationship may fade and die, and that’s okay. However, you can notice some signs your relationship is over before the final blow....CONTINUE READING
Suddenly, you may find that your source of strength is now a source of stress. Your partner may have a hard time accepting changes while you continue growing apart. This list shows 23 early signs your relationship is ending. Take a look.
1. There Is No Communication Between You Both
Sharing your thoughts with your partner is the backbone of a strong relationship. We often shudder at the thought of being judged and try to keep it all in. You may feel that your partner will not understand what you are trying to tell them. Such circumstances may push you to stop putting any effort into expressing yourself. Thus, communication issues can kill a relationship.
A lack of enthusiasm and support from you towards your partner, no willingness to help even with the smallest things, and no remorse when your partner’s expectations are not met may indicate the end of the relationship.
2. You Both Want To Escape And Be Elsewhere
Seeing your partner after a tiring day should feel refreshing and relaxing. If you are trying your best to avoid your partner and finding excuses to not meet them, your relationship is in big trouble. So, if you feel like you would rather be alone in a bar than at home snuggling with your partner, know that your relationship is over.
3. You Find Flaws In Everything They Do
Their habits that you once found adorable when you first met now feel like a big hammer striking your head every time they do them. With time, the love you had for them fades and leaves you with reality, which takes a lot of maturity and patience to deal with. You cringe when you see their shoes thrown all over the place, the sink filled with dirty utensils, and their excessive spending. You begin wondering what made you settle for this relationship.
4. Lack Of Physical Affection
Be it a cheeky kiss in public, sneaking away from the group to make a quick gesture of love, or making things exciting in bed, a relationship is all about making your partner feel loved emotionally and satisfying them physically. However, if you stop craving physical contact with your partner and there is a lack of intimacy between you two, it’s probably time to call it quits.
5. Any Communication From Them Fills You With Dread
You remember those butterflies you felt in your tummy every time you saw a call or text from your partner? Well, now, if all you feel is a sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach when you see a notification on your phone, that is not a good sign for your relationship.
It is a warning sign once the time with your partner becomes a source of stress and something to tolerate, rather than a source of peace and something to enjoy.
6. You Are Mentally Ready For A Breakup
After you are done trying your level best to fix your relationship, you realize that what is broken cannot be put back together again. You have also probably started picturing your life without your partner and it does not feel impossible anymore. In fact, you start feeling happier when you are by yourself than when you were with each other in the last stages of your relationship.
Observe for subtle signs, like a lack of enthusiasm to bring your partner along to social events. If you feel an increasing desire to exclude them from such occasions, it is time to rethink your relationship.
7. You Feel The Need To Repeat Everything You Say
We all want a partner who is a good listener. They may not be able to solve every problem in your life, but they need to be there any time you need a sounding board to talk things out. When your relationship is in turmoil, you often feel like your partner is not even paying heed to what you are saying. You feel the need to repeat everything you say, which frustrates you more with every argument.
8. Your Mental Health Is Affected
What should have relaxed your mind and soothed your heart is now stressing you out. Your anxiety and frustration are pushing you to the verge of an emotional breakdown, and talking to your partner does not make these feelings go away.
9. You Feel Like Everything Has Changed
The person you felt the most connected to now feels like a different person altogether. You feel like you are being introduced to his terrible habits in a new way, and living with him gets more and more difficult with every passing day. Though changes in a person are inevitable, adjusting to and living with those changes can be difficult and lead to the end of a relationship.
10. There Are Trust Issues Building Up
Breakdown of trust is the worst thing that can happen to a relationship. Everything you say to each other sounds like a lie, and all the promises you made together seem futile. Trust issues can crush a relationship into a million little pieces.
11. The Spark Between You Two Is Lost
Earlier, after every quarrel and mild misunderstanding, you got back together because the familiar spark of love reignited every time you looked at each other and expressed sincere love. However, sparks fizzle out, and your relationship has now dulled down.
It’s normal for the spark to not shine as bright as it did at the beginning of the relationship. However, it’s concerning once the spark is entirely gone and lost.
12. There Are More Fights And Less Love
Constant fights and unhappiness choke a relationship to death. Even though fights among couples are inevitable, each one must end with a sincere apology and an urge to make things work. If you can’t find a reason to put in the effort to make things work, your relationship is over.
13. You Find Other People Attractive
You can be attracted to other people surface-level only. However, the moment you start considering making a move and doing something about that attraction, it’s when there’s room for concern in your relationship.
At this point, one of things could happen: you both go for a separation or one of you cheats on the other.
14. The Future Of Your Relationship Seems Dark
The adorable times you spent lying side by side planning a future together now seem a lifetime away. The lack of trust, love, and respect forces you to survive each day in their presence. If you can’t see a future with your partner, know that your relationship is resting on an unstable foundation.
15. Your Gut Tells You Something Is Wrong
When you feel like something is not right in your relationship, it probably isn’t. It could just be a general feeling of unhappiness or unease, or your gut may be telling you that your partner is not being faithful to you. You are receiving subconscious signals from yourself and your partner, you know there’s something off and wrong. Trust your senses.
16. You Spend More Time With Your Friends
Another sign of a relationship ending is that you spend more time with your family and friends than with your better half. You try to hang out with your partner only in public or in the presence of company to avoid any serious conversations about the issues in your relationship. It becomes concerning the moment you use ‘spending time with family/friends’ as an escape from having to spend time with your partner.
17. You Don’t Want To Negotiate
Anything can be solved with a heart-to-heart conversation and the willingness to make things work between you two. However, sometimes the damage is already too big to even want to fix the relationship. With the spark between you two now long smothered, you detest trying to explain yourself which leads to the end of the relationship.
18. You Are Not A Priority Anymore
When things kicked off between you two, you were the focal point around which your partner’s world revolved. Now, hearing things about them from other people breaks your heart. A relationship cannot survive such a change in affection and priorities.
19. You Begin To Lie And Cheat
If your relationship is robbing you of your happiness, you begin to seek it elsewhere with other people. At this point, it best to ends things with your partner because cheating and lying will only bring you down in your own eyes. A fundamental sign of a relationship being over is when one or both partners are seeking fulfillment (be it emotional, sexual, etc.) outside of their relationship through lying and betraying, without considering each other’s feelings and well-being.
20. There Is Visible Boredom In The Relationship
With the sparks of love long gone, your relationship feels like a mere duty. You are as bored with your relationship as with yourself for not being able to change it. Eventually, unhappiness creeps in and you long for happiness elsewhere.
21. You Don’t Want To Go To Therapy
Even if going to therapy could stall the separation, you would prefer not going for it and want to put an end to it the right way. This is a sure sign that the love between you two has completely faded and moving on seems like the right thing to do.
22. You Feel Alone Even When You Are With Your Partner
Even when your partner is sitting right beside you, you don’t feel like they are the same person anymore. You feel lonely and long for a person who would understand you. Regular conversations are replaced by baseless arguments, and the peace and tranquility in your relationship is lost forever.
23. You Don’t Feel Good About Yourself Anymore
You begin to hate the person you have turned into in the span of your relationship. You are angry for not being able to resist the changes thrust upon you by your partner, and now, you feel like you have lost the person you were.
24. You Don’t Miss Them
When you really love someone, you miss them any time you are apart. It could be when one of you is away on a trip, or even in the middle of a regular workday. The thought of going back home to them fills your heart with happiness. If you don’t miss your partner and even look forward to being away from them, it’s probably over between you two.
25. You Want To Give Up
If your heart is yearning to be set free and happy again and you are tired of being unhappy, you need to realize that your relationship is over. At this point, you start looking out for yourself for a change, and giving up on the relationship seems like the only way to make things right for each other.
26. Sabotage In Relationship
Relationship sabotage can take many different forms, such as intentionally undermining your partner or provoking arguments. It often acts as a warning sign for underlying problems that need to be addressed. A deep dissatisfaction inside the partnership or unsolved grudges may lead to persistent sabotage. Growing distance can be caused by withdrawing emotionally, acting uninterested, or displaying a lack of empathy towards each other’s feelings. Consistently shutting down conversations, dismissing feelings, or refusing to engage in open dialogue can hinder effective communication. In addition, constantly blaming one another without taking accountability is another sign that says your relationship is over.
Anggun Bawi, a relationship blogger, shares her experience of holding onto a relationship that had hit a dead end and was not working out for the better. She writes, “I knew I had the power to break it off earlier with this guy, but out of desperation, I decided to stay… and tried harder (i).” She continues, “I know I’m not the only one who experienced getting stuck in a relationship that’s already dead — thinking somehow I still could change his mind.”
