There’s this lady who’s a student nurse and my baby mama. We’re not in a romantic relationship, and there are no plans for marriage or getting together because I’m already in a relationship with someone else, and we’re preparing for marriage. However, I do provide financial support when she asks for it....CONTINUE READING
She recently returned home from school last week (on 18-08-23) for a short vacation, and she’s been asking for financial assistance to cover her school fees, which amount to about GH¢4000.00. She’s also asked if she can work as a salesperson in my business, so I can pay her as an employee.
I’m aware that she’s involved with an older man (I can’t exactly call him a sugar daddy due to his appearance). I’ve advised her to distance herself from this man, but she refuses to do so. It’s essential to note that our child is not with her; the child has been in my care since she started her schooling.
Furthermore, she had a physical altercation with my girlfriend once, and as a result, my girlfriend has warned me not to provide any assistance to her. I’m feeling torn between listening to my girlfriend’s advice and supporting my child’s mother. Please hide my identity, and I’ll be reading the comments for guidance. Thank you.
ADVICE FROM AUNTY ABENA
It’s essential to prioritize your current relationship and respect your girlfriend’s wishes. However, as a co-parent, you also have a responsibility to ensure the well-being of your child and provide support as needed.
Here’s a possible approach:
1. Communicate with your girlfriend: Have an open and honest conversation with your girlfriend. Explain the situation with your child’s mother and your intentions to support her financially regarding the school fees. Try to address any concerns or insecurities she might have.
2. Set boundaries: Make it clear to your child’s mother that your support is strictly for the child’s education and well-being. Emphasize that it doesn’t involve any romantic or emotional involvement.
3. Child’s welfare: Ensure that the financial support you provide is solely for your child’s needs, such as school fees, books, and other essentials. Keep a record of these expenses to maintain transparency.
4. Maintain a respectful distance: While offering support, ensure you maintain boundaries with your child’s mother to avoid any misunderstandings or conflicts in your current relationship.
5. Seek advice: If the situation becomes too complex, consider seeking advice from a counselor or therapist who specializes in co-parenting and relationship issues. They can provide guidance on navigating these complex dynamics.
Remember, the well-being of your child should always be the top priority. Balancing your responsibilities as a co-parent and maintaining a healthy relationship with your girlfriend requires clear communication and respectful boundaries.
